A suggestion to femmes : please yourself in the mirror ! For a long time I didnβt really like using my fingers to cum with, and Iβve found watching myself, I get super turned on ! Iβd even suggest recording it so that you can watch it later ! And just be yourself ! Donβt worry about putting on a show for the male gaze, make it about you ! Iβd even suggest romancing yourself a bit, taking a hot bath, giving yourself a massage with some warm oil, burning some candles & some sage to prep bringing in sensual wholesome energy. This is a great practice to get to know yourself and find out what YOU like ! Make some noises, talk to yourself or say the things youβd normally shy away from. Whatever gets you going, do that. Take your time π₯°