Receiving. Something we all crave, yet often struggle wit..
Added 2022-01-02 04:49:47 +0000 UTCReceiving. Something we all crave, yet often struggle with. Why? Maybe because we’ve learned it’s more blessed (ie, more “right”) to give than to receive. Maybe because we live in a world that values painful, arduous work and martyrdom more than play and pleasure. Maybe because we’re not willing to surrender the imaginary reigns, ie, the illusion of control in our lives. Maybe…because deep down, we don’t feel we’re worthy to receive. Does this sound familiar? Now, I ask you to consider how each of these scenarios has shown up in your sex life. Really. GO THERE. Personally, nothing has created as much suffering in my own marriage & sex life as this. It’s not that I didn’t TRY to receive; I simply couldn’t. My history and harmful beliefs about who I “should” be as a woman, lover, mother, and human made it impossible. No matter how much Ryan GAVE throughout our first decade of marriage, it wasn’t enough. Not because I was insatiable (I’d yet to tap into my deep well of sexual energy), but because I didn’t know how to explore the disowned desires of my heart and sexuality. It was the perfect breeding ground for resentment, disconnection, and contempt. He’d give, with little in return. I’d give, with a subconscious intention to manipulate him to give me more. On and on the cycle continued. UNTIL WE DECIDED TO BREAK THE CYCLE. It wasn’t even both of us doing “the work” at the same time. For the first several years, usually one of us was more committed to the process than the other at different times. There was no perfect timing, no super secret formula. Simply two people learning how to work through their traumas, recalibrate their nervous systems, and become intimately familiar with their sexual shadows. That changed the whole fucking game.❤️🔥❤️🔥 🎥 Video still by Tits & Coffee - Creative Studio For Conscious Adults 📸 by Frank Martinez
