The Golden Rule doesn’t quite work in the bedroom, OR in rel..

The Golden Rule doesn’t quite work in the bedroom, OR in relationships. While well-intentioned for showing kindness and love to each other, there are a couple key pieces missing.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ First, there’s the unspoken bit about expectations. “You scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours!” may seem fair and logical, but approaching relationships and lovemaking with this mentality creates a lackluster energy that leaves both people wanting. Remember, too, that it’s totally normal and human for one partner to have higher needs of receiving one day over the other.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Another gap in the Golden Rule is the losing game of assumptions. For me to think that Ryan WANTS to have done to him what *I* want done to me is quite the assumption. Hint: he doesn’t! Let’s take this deeper, into the kinkosphere.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ One of the biggest roadblocks and hang-ups we had in the bedroom for YEARS was this belief that we had to be into the same things. But we often aren’t. We have different specific kinks, desires, & curiosities. They don’t always magically sync up; we find or create ways to explore them together.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ How? ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Through honest communication, heartfelt conversation, and open-minded negotiation. This allows for less resentment, miscommunication, and disappointment, and more passion, connection, and full-body pleasure. GAME CHANGER.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ So how about instead of following the Golden Rule, we approach each other with…let’s call it, the True Pleasure Rule. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ❤️‍🔥Be radically honest with yourself about what you want⁣⁣ ❤️‍🔥Make clear, courageous, vulnerable, loving, requests ⁣⁣ ❤️‍🔥Establish boundaries for play and exploration (these are fluid, not fixed; revisit often!)⁣⁣ ❤️‍🔥Only give when your are genuinely open to give, and if you aren’t, take a closer look into why⁣⁣ ❤️‍🔥Negotiate, negotiate, negotiate ⁣⁣ ❤️‍🔥When uncomfortable feels emerge, learn how to co-regulate and self-regulate ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ More pleasure and REAL connection guaranteed!😉 ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 📸 Tits & Coffee - Creative Studio For Conscious Adults ⁣⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #relationships #sexcoaching