Why are guys so hard on themselves. I have a greatly friend thatβs with a woman who constantly manipulates him. He says he deserves it because he used to whore around in his younger days (he wasnβt with her back then). Heβs not married, but he lives with his girlfriend and her kids. I tell him that he deserves to be loved and cared for, and not manipulated. Finally today I said the need for change must be greater than the fear to remain the same. I canβt take credit for that saying, but thought it appropriate. Have a great night π